Are you a man who is sick and tired of relationships that turn sour?
You’re carrying battle scars inflicted by burnt-out relationships.
Your feelings of isolation, loneliness, and emptiness are getting harder to ignore. Yet, a looming wall is standing darkly between you, and genuinely connecting with others.
Your self-confidence has been shattered by a relentless, and crippling inner bully, whose only purpose is to terrorize you into submission.
You’re pissed-off with living a lie, with phony friendships, with wanting the approval of people you don’t even like.
I’m sure you’ll agree that when it comes to relationships, most men are like rudderless sailboats, who are trying to stay afloat amid a hostile, crashing, and menacing sea.
Let’s be honest, the problem we face, with relationships and communicating effectively, is due to the negative messages we’ve received.
You see, we’ve been brain-washed, conditioned, and held prisoner by the poisonous messages from our culture, our society, our community, and even our family.
What does that mean for you?
Let’s look at an example, so you’ll have a clearer picture of this in your mind.
But, first a warning; the example I’m going to use isn’t pretty, pleasant, or sugar-coated. Why? Because I’m passionate about helping men with solving real-world problems, and sometimes that means telling hard truths.
Here’s a shocking, and sobering statistic from the 2018 Samaritans Annual Suicide Report:
On average, 12 men under the age of 50 in the UK commit suicide, EVERY, SINGLE, DAY!.
In other words, a man is sitting by himself in his car right now, probably with a family who loves him, and he feels defeated, weak, helpless, hopeless. And, he’s thinking, what would be least painful? Slashing my wrists in a warm bath or hanging myself from a tree?
If you’re anything like me, then you’ll find that a sickening statistic and scene to consider.
Why are these men taking their own lives?
In my years of experience, training, and research into working with men, I’ve concluded that the following represent some of the messages which negatively impact us:
- Men’s relationships breakdown and they’re often seen as the bad guy.
- Men should sort their shit out, by themselves. So, they have no one to turn to when times get rough.
- Men are ONLY successful if they’re driving a sports car, have six-pack abs, dating multiple super-models, and living a James Bond lifestyle.
- Men put on a hardened and toughened mask because vulnerability is seen as a weakness.
Here’s the good news, you’re in the right place to discover the secrets of building magnificent relationships and the proven strategies you need for life-changing communication skills.
Hi, my name is James Harris, and I am the owner of Men Who Connect. This site is dedicated to building a strong and inclusive community of like-minded men. They are passionate about taking their relationship and communication skills to a whole new level.
Before I tell you about the benefits you can expect to receive by joining our community, I’d like to tell you a quick story about why I started along this path. I’m sharing this with you because I think you’ll understand where I’m coming from.
My decision to start Men Who Connect was born out of two painful realizations…
Picture this… I’m staring out of a train window; I’m watching the lush, vibrant, green countryside streaming by. I’m sitting at a white and scratched plastic table with three of my closest friends. I hear their happy banter about the evening’s entertainment. I’m sensing an exciting vibe in the air as if they’re gleefully rubbing their hands together in mouth-watering anticipation for the Turkish feast we’ve got planned ahead.
How am I feeling amid this merriment?
I’m feeling utterly empty, utterly alone, utterly disconnected from my friends.
And, I’m thinking, “Can’t they see that I’m miserable? Don’t they care that I’m silent and withdrawn?”
Then, the first realization hits me, like a tremendous and steaming dump that’s come directly from the arsehole from the god of harsh truths.
My problems with connection weren’t caused by what was happening on the outside. No, my issues with connection were caused by what was happening on the inside.
Here’s what I mean…
My problem was caused by a deep-rooted fear of rejection, by crippling self-doubt, by the toxic shame I would carry around with me into every interaction.
My second realization? I would only change this problem by taking responsibility for developing myself. This included learning all I could about how healthy relationships and effective communication skills work.
So, I absorbed every book I could on these subjects. I invested £1000s into completing a four-year Psychotherapy Masters program, and I gained my industry’s professional stamp of approval by becoming an Accredited Counsellor with the BACP. Also, over the last eight years, I’ve worked with 100’s of people to find creative solutions to make their relationships work.
Do these experiences make me some sort of relationship Guru now? No… in fact, I still have days when I fret about the next big wave that’ could crush my little sailboat. But, I do know that my belly is filled with fire when I think about helping men to develop fulfilling connections with the people they care about most.
Now, you know something about me, I’d like to tell you about my mission for Men Who Connect:
My mission is to help 1000 men, to develop the confidence and skills needed to connect with others; in their careers, in their families, in their circle of friends, in their communities.
I m here to tell you that these skills are all teachable and learnable and that you can become the man you’ve always dreamed of being.
If that sounds good to you, then here are five benefits you can expect to receive from subscribing to Men Who Connect:
- Together, we’ll find a way to put the past behind you, so you’ll start approaching relationships with a fresh and invigorated perspective.
- Together, we’ll discover the actionable tools, tactics, habits, attitudes, and behaviors of highly effective communicators. You’ll be able to implement these immediately and stand back as you watch your relationships transform.
- Together, we’ll re-ignite your self-confidence, and we’ll turn your inner bully into a powerful ally.
- Together, we’ll find a way to conker the emotional, psychological, mental, and spiritual blocks that have prevented you from connecting with the type of people you admire, appreciate, and respect.
- Together, we’ll build a strong, loyal, and grounded community of men. So, you’ll have a band of brothers standing by you when times get tough, and who will also be there uto cheer you on as you stride confidently towards your goals.
If you’re ready to stand strong with a community of likeminded men, then go ahead and enter your email address below to subscribe.